If you want to get your ex girlfriend back in your life, you need to be careful about when and how you contact her. As you may have read elsewhere, many relationship gurus (myself included) encourage you not to contact your ex for a period of time after breaking up.
Now, that’s definitely true — you don’t want to be pestering your ex girlfriend with endless calls or texts — so you should give your ex space for a few weeks after a breakup. This helps show your ex girlfriend you’re not needy or desperate, and will give her time to reminisce about the positive aspects of your relationship.
That said, you may have already reached out to your ex before reading this article. Maybe you told her you missed her… told her you still loved her… maybe you even begged your ex girlfriend to come back to you. These are what we call “weak signals,” and they’re not good.
If you did send any “weak signals” to your ex, stop now. However, you also don’t want to cut off contact with your ex after sending these “weak signals”… that’s what she’ll remember about you, and she’ll spend the “no contact period” with a weak / needy image of you in her mind.
A better way to end communication for a few weeks — or a good “final message” to send to your ex girlfriend before you stop talking to her for a while — is to send the opposite vibes: tell her you’re actually glad that the two of you broke up, and that it will be a good thing for you to take some time apart. In general, sound positive and upbeat, not depressed and heartbroken.
After sending that positive message, you can then stop talking to your ex for a while (this could be anywhere from 7 days to 2 months depending on the circumstances of your breakup). With the positive message you sent to your ex girlfriend at the top of her mind, she’ll start wondering why you were happy about the breakup… and whether she made the right decision letting you go.
This is the first step in shifting control of your situation from your ex girlfriend back to you. Eventually, assuming you play your cards right, you will be able to gain complete control of the situation… and make your girlfriend start second-guessing her decision to break up.
To learn more techniques that will help you shift the balance of power and win back your ex girlfriend, visit my website and watch the free video presentation. In it, I’ll share with you some of my most powerful psychological techniques… and I’ll teach you how to end the “no contact” phase in such a way that will leave her powerless to resist her advances.
Watch this video now by clicking here… trust me, it will be well worth your time!
Best of luck,
- Brad Browning, author of The Ex Factor Guide
PS. Due to ridiculously high demand and skyrocket bandwidth costs, my free video will only be available for another few days, so I advise you to check it out ASAP.
